If you would have asked me what a "man on fire for God" was in high school, you would have gotten a blank stare. I would have had no idea what that meant, because sadly, that was not a priority for me at that time. In high school, my picture perfect husband would have been an attractive man with a good personality that came out of the Hallmark movies. Not once did I ever think about wanting my future husband being of fire for the Lord.
Being in worldly relationships, I always felt a void. I always felt like I was never enough, and I had to give them a part of me to make myself be of worth to them. How silly does that sound? I know I am not alone though. You know what though, even though I gave them a part of me (I can never get back), it NEVER filled that void. That void I always felt was my need for my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Praise God! He can forgive a sinner like me so I can have a relationship with our Heavenly Father! From this point on, literally EVERYTHING changes.
The way you speak, think, act, and even spend your money. You start hanging with like minded people to grow in your walk with the Lord. Your views change on who you want to say "Till death do us part" with. The values you used to look for in a guy have now changed. You are looking for a man on fire for the Lord! Do you wonder what that looks like?
Humility...Faithful...Leader...Prayerful...Forgiving...Saving Sex for Marriage
Humility: In James 4:4-6, it talks about people that are friends of the world, are enemies against God. It goes on to say that God opposes the proud and gives grace to the humble. Praise God! When the Holy Spirit fills us, we see the world's cheap attractions to what God has to offer. What does this look like for a man of God? A Godly man is not proud or boastful. He is able to share his flaws to others for encouragement and prayers.
Faithful: 2 Corinthians 6:14, " Do not be yolked together with unbelievers..." Paul talks in this passage to not form an unbreakable bond with unbelievers. This sounds harsh, but Paul explains that this could effect your walk with the Lord. As Christian women, we need Christian men that we can grow with in our relationship with the Lord.
Leader: Ephesians 5:22-33 talks about the instructions for a Christian Household. Many people read this scripture and interpret it wrong. This passage tells wives to follow her husband's leadership in Christ. Husbands are to set aside his interests to care for his wife. This quality leads right back to faithfulness. If your boyfriend, fiance, or husband, isn't the spiritual leader of the household, it can and most likely will effect your walk with the Lord. Find a man who can support and encourage you while leading you spiritually.
Man of Prayer: 1 Timothy 2:8 "Therefore I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing." This quality is probably one of my favorites and most intimate. When you hear them pray, you hear what is on their hearts. Being able to fully surrender together and praying over people is such an amazing time with the Lord and your man.
Forgiving: Matthew 6:14-15 " For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But, if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." . Also, in Ephesians 4:31-32 it says"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Being with a Godly man, he forgives and doesn't hold grudges and look for revenge because he is striving to live Christ like.
Saving Sex for Marriage: 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own, you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies." Intense right?! You think this sounds like God is a fun hater? No, but he hates pain. Pain from the consequences of having premarital sex, or any other sin for that matter. God designed sex to be between husband and wife alone. Today sex has become so casual, which is really devastating. We throw around the "L" word and really have come desensitized to the importance of waiting for marriage. Single men on fire for God see the importance of waiting for marriage. Married men on fire for God see sex as an amazing Gift from God not just a pleasurable act done with their wife. When you take out premarital sex, you and your boyfriend can learn more about each other and grow closer to God.
I didn't wait for marriage. It's no excuse, but I never truly knew why you shouldn't have sex before marriage. I was just told you shouldn't do it. I'm not putting down my parents by any means because this is such a hard topic to talk about. Because I never knew the reasoning why, and being the rebellious teen I was, I had sex. I thought having sex with my boyfriend would show how much we "loved" each other. My friends, what a lie Satan was telling me. When I met Nick, it was completely different. You guys, he waited for me, and I didn't wait for him. What a special gift Nick gave me that I can never give him. Please reconsider having sex before marriage. You may not see the consequences at the time, but later in life they show up.
Lean on the Word, dig into the Word, and read the Word with your man! Grow in Christ together! There is nothing more attractive then seeing your husband on fire for the Lord. Listening to his prayers, hearing him singing and tapping his feet in the car, to giving tithes at church, it all is our beautiful testimony of Christs love for us! Don't settle for a "good guy" when God intended for you to have a Godly man.